ISFJ / Taurus
Who is a Defender (ISFJ)?
Defenders are individuals with the Introverted, Sensing, Feeling and Judging personality traits. They tend to be humble, hard-working, and enthusiastic people who prefer to focus on the details, rather than the bigger picture. Emotionally orientated, defenders are sensitive to other people's feelings and have a deep understanding of their own.
In our constellation of urgent emails, texts and push notifications, Defender/Taurus reminds us to take it slow and enjoy the earthly delights around us. This calming presence makes them a pleasure to be around. Steadfast friends, partners and family members, they stand beside their loved ones through thick and thin. They are your loyal, lifelong friends. For Defender/Taurus, friendship is a precious jewel to protect and polish daily. They are selective of whom they chose to befriend, so if you’re earned their trust, you’re in luck. They’ll make sure to schedule weekly movie nights, shopping trips and dinners at that sushi spot they love. Count on your Defender/Taurus pal to give rational advice and damn good hugs. The greatest thing you can do in return is telling them how much their friendship means to you.
They feel a strong sense of responsibility and duty. They take their responsibilities very seriously, and can be counted on to follow through. For this reason, people naturally tend to rely on them. They have a difficult time saying "no" when asked to do something, and may become over-burdened. In such cases, they do not usually express their difficulties to others, because they intensely dislike conflict, and because they tend to place other people's needs over their own. They need to learn to identify, value, and express their own needs, if they wish to avoid becoming over-worked and taken for granted. They need positive feedback from others. In the absence of positive feedback, or in the face of criticism, they get discouraged, and may even become depressed. When down on themselves or under great stress, they begin to imagine all of the things that might go critically wrong in their life. They have strong feelings of inadequacy, and become convinced that "everything is all wrong", or "I can't do anything right".
Commitment is very important for a Defender/Taurus in love, they prefer to work things out if at all possible. Many a time you will find that there are no clean breaks with them, as when time is invested in a relationship by them, they will try hard not to just give up. This can be very good long term, or not depending on how compatible you are. Sometimes there are several "break ups" before the final one and in the interim you have the chance to win them back. Be practical and gentle with your loyal Defender/Taurus and you will have a stable devoted partner for life. They believe in the traditional family roles and values, so these husbands will desire to work hard to provide for the family, while the wives would do their utmost to prepare the household and serve their husbands well. They are careful with embarking on new relationships and will take their time to become comfortable with anyone new in their lives.
They live in a world that is concrete and kind. They are truly warm and kind-hearted, and want to believe the best of people. They value harmony and cooperation, and are likely to be very sensitive to other people's feelings. People value these people for their consideration and awareness, and their ability to bring out the best in others by their firm desire to believe the best. They have a rich inner world that is not usually obvious to observers. They constantly take in information about people and situations that is personally important to them, and store it away. This tremendous store of information is usually startlingly accurate, because they have an exceptional memory about things that are important to their value systems.