INFJ / Aquarius
Who is an Advocate (INFJ)?
Advocates are individuals with the Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling and Judging personality traits. They tend to be gentle, complex and intuitive people who enjoy expressing themselves both artistically and creatively. Highly observant of their surroundings, advocates are extremely skillful at reading and understanding other people.
Advocate/Aquarians are always running little tests. They live their lives as one big science experiment, using the element of surprise to collect reactions and construct theories about the intricacies of human nature. They are walking abstract art pieces, shattering traditional perspectives with their complete disregard for convention. They are martyrs to the cause of “humanity”, and “freedom” is their only demand. With their eccentric nature, they find connections with others to be very easy to make, and will not find it difficult to meet up with friends or family members that they have not seen or heard from in a long time. Having a real zest for life, these people tend to have a lot of energy and have a great curiosity for new experiences. They’re one of the most friendly personality combos and thus they can be fun to spend time with. Their eccentric and empathetic nature leads them to be great advice givers, always happy and excited to help those in need as well as to have a listening ear.
They’re as genuinely warm as they are complex. They hold a special place in the heart of people who they are close to, who are able to see their special gifts and depth of caring. They are concerned for people's feelings, and try to be gentle to avoid hurting anyone. They are very sensitive to conflict, and cannot tolerate it very well. Because they have such strong intuitive capabilities, they trust their own instincts above all else. This may result in a stubbornness and tendency to ignore other people's opinions. They believe that they're right. On the other hand, they’re a perfectionist who doubts that they are living up to their full potential. Advocate/Aquarius are rarely at complete peace with themselves - there's always something else they should be doing to improve themselves and the world around them. They believe in constant growth, and don't often take time to revel in their accomplishments. They have strong value systems, and need to live their lives in accordance with what they feel is right. In deference to the Feeling aspect of their personalities, they are in some ways gentle and easy going. Conversely, they have very high expectations of themselves, and frequently of their families. They don't believe in compromising their ideals.
Falling in love with an Advocate/Aquarius can be both wonderful and confusing. Although they tend to get along with nearly everyone, they can be unpredictable and a little on the cold side. They have no problem sharing their wild thoughts, ideas, and opinions with others, but expressing their feelings isn't something they really do. It’s not uncommon for someone dating an Advocate/Aquarius to feel like they're dating an emotionless rock. Once you get over the initial bumps in the road, being with an Advocate/Aquarius can be amazing. When in love it is like having your best friend around all the time. They'll make future plans with you, they'll always be there for you when you need it, and they'll always fascinate you with their ideas. Every now and then, they may even surprise you by showing you their softer side. Even if they aren't great with romance, they will show you how much you mean to them in their own unique and special way.
If you want to keep your relationship with them moving forward, the most important thing to do is give them space to figure things out for themselves. Let them have their own friends and hobbies that are separate from the relationship. Above all, don't pressure them for a label or a commitment. If they show up every day, that is commitment to them. Due to their friendly and giving natures, those with the Advocate/Aquarius personality combo can sometimes be taken advantage of. They also need to put aside time for themselves, and reflect on their own inner world, as focusing on others can take a lot of energy out of them. They do have a tendency to get bored easily if they are not stimulated enough by their own social lives. They like to be active, both mentally and physically and as such they may be filled with an anxious and nervous energy.